In this world I think it is vitally important to get a grasp of socially acceptable behavior as well as the fact that we are all made to be unique…. Each of us may not be able to achieve what the other can…. I may not be able to win an Olympic medal.. or have the intellect of a Nobel peace prize winner. It is what it is. There are some things I can do that you can’t and things you do that I won’t. It is what it is. Such is the use of the word N(ga) or N(er), this boils down to connotation, use, and user. Now… I continually hear the argument from non blacks. “Well they use the word why can’t we?” A few things from my top: First of all…. It’s a black thing. It has been argued to be a term of endearment between black people (hence why it causes utter outrage if used by someone else), Secondly if you happen to live in the same world I live in… you understand the connotation of this word.. you understand that if you are not black and using it, it can and will be perceived as offensive. In reality, we as black people know you use it.. we know in the privacy in your homes and among your friends, we know you laugh and mock blacks because we do the same thing too, lol.. however the issue is that you do not have the etiquette or discretion to know that you are not wise to use it.. in anyway… around people of color, period. Let me kindly tell you, if you have not been aware yet in life, that our lives are comprised of wise or unwise choices….. So tell me, why, if you understand the nature of the word, and are not black, would you push the envelope and potentially cause havoc.. simply because you want the option to use it without others being offended? Racial slurs have been around since the beginning of time, and their initial intent was to be offensive.. Perhaps it would be wise to just avoid using it if you understand these truths. Now to address folks of color on this issue: If someone uses this word against you, either in attempt to think they are your friend or to be offensive, I would respond accordingly. If they are a friend and are aloof, simply warn them that it would be in their interest not to get comfortable using it. If they are trying to offend you, say it back to them, keep your cool and don’t lose your composure. People will use what they can to push your buttons…. Don’t be such an open book.
Monday, July 15, 2013
Nothing worse than a culture full of words but no actions. I am enraged at how this current generation is filled with powerful emotion in which they spill into cyber space, but lack the true courage to do anything. We watch evil creep into our country, watch the discord in our families and sit by idly as the foolishness devours us all. We leave the responsibility to just a few people that we deem strong... and wait for the pressure to crush them. I am so sick of our reactive approach to the world we live in, and wish others could share in the burden that leaders experience. Feelings do nothing nor do they improve conditions... Actions have the ability to change the conditions and bring on progress.. As i am inundated with social media and the countless empty words that fills it... I only long for another to walk this path with me. Thankful to God that he will not abandon me, even as those the closet to me leave me to navigate life's path alone. For the other leaders that feel the pressures that I am talking about.. I wish you well.. I pray that God keep you strong and sane, as our presence in this dying world is utterly necessary. Bless.
Sunday, July 14, 2013
There is nothing more disgusting than a system that righteously knows someone is guilty, but through the purchase of a top of the line legal team, can be found innocent, and will not be required to serve any time for their crimes. In the past there have been obviously guilty people tried.... that escaped "justice". It also works in the inverse. Their have also been innocent persons, that trusted in the system, because they knew they were innocent, that were unjustly found guilty for crimes they didn't commit. I for one am continually dismayed at the messages that such a system portrays to the masses. It is no hidden secret that money can buy pretty much anything in America, right or wrong, but I astutely warn America.. I warn you from your foolish approach that no one can judge or draw the line between right and wrong.. I warn you, that judgement will fall on this country swiftly if you continue on this dangerous path. Something is due those that commit crimes, if you refuse to judge them, they have not escaped, but face an even more harsh punishment from our Lord, my God. Also in saying that, if you have unjustly judged someone... they are owed the utmost restitution for the ultimate betrayal by a broken and greedy system........
Saturday, July 13, 2013
So... its popular to attempt to trap a man with a baby, and I'm just wondering how exactly does it work for you, in seeing that, usually a child is not enough to secure the man... That he will either go on to have other children or marry someone else, that is childless. I'm wondering, exactly how many times do we have to see this model, to understand that it doesn't work..... How many times do we have to watch the children of broken homes grow up and become menaces to society because of their identity issues? Don't we see the deadly cycle? Can't we become proactive? Can't we begin to give our children the best possible start by being selective with whom we become intimate with and who we bare children by? Now In realty, I know there are some woman that get caught up with guys that are flip artists ( pretend to be something that they are not), but in most cases.. The women must take responsibility for who they have had children by. At least the majority of the men I have ever known were always forthright with what they did or didn't want.... I believe some women hear these truths and determine in their mind that they can change the man with time.... much to my dismay and countless others... this doesn't usually fare well. If you decide to stick it out with a man to decide if he will materialize into the man of your dreams... please don't bring any children into it.